so as to spare you from having JUST text i'll try to include a few pictures. first off, we should start off with a super cute pic of my stella. :) my sister recently moved home. she feels bad [stella has cancer and her back/belly are getting REALLY bald--it's super ugly & sad.] so she painted her nails to make her look a little more presentable. i'd say it worked. she looks like a hottie! {it's a cell phone pic, so expect crappy quality}
i'd also like to share something that seriously upset me. first i'll just show you the picture, then you try to decide what i hate about it. [i was trying to find a new dress for church--this was what i found. i thought it'd be super cute w/ a cardigan. except there's this one little detail...]
except then there's those two SUPER awkward darts right on my boobs. that are like... pointy? what?? why?! and the darts aren't even straight. awesome. it pretty much screams "look right here!!" super classy. JUST what i want to wear to church. needless to say i didn't buy the dress. and i'm pretty ticked at whatever designer decided those darts were necessary... ridic.
okay, now that i'm finished talking about how ticked i am over that [still], i wanted to write down some stuff we discussed in linguistics today. it was actually really interesting and it really applied to mouthy me.
we were discussing dialects. one type of dialects are called "genderlects." right away this caught my attention. [it would have caught it earlier if i'd actually read the chapter, but that's besides the point...] it's basically the difference between the way the majority or males speak vs. the majority of females.
so. what we learned is that females tend to be more submissive with their language. they tend to say things like "maybe" and "i feel" and "perhaps." they tend to say "tush" or "tummy". and we learned that men, as my professor said, tend to say "this is how it is and if you don't like it, [screw] you!" [i have to edit a lot of his language hahaha.] they tend to say "a--" or "gut."
he then said, "so if you're an outspoken female you'll be perceived as a [w]itch. basically, you're either a man or a [lesbian]. you can't be a girl AND be set in your ways."
hahaha, i love that man! so true. i know what you're all thinking right now: "here goes alison on one of her little feminist rants." and i just want to point out that you saying that because i have thoughts makes me a feminist kinda proves my point. do i fit the classic vision of a girl? heck no. i'm mouthy. i'm honest. i'm blunt. and i love it. you will never have to doubt what i think. :)
the fact that i have strong opinions doesn't mean i'm a mean person--if a male had the exact same strong opinions and presented them in the exact same way as me, i can guarantee you that he would just be thought of as a guy. but i'm a [w]itch? ugh.
so basically, no... i'm not a feminist. i'm a boy.
i'm glad we got that all cleared up. ;)
[wooooh! i could go on for hours. but i'll shush before i get all worked up. really. i'm not a feminist. i'm just confident in myself. :) but, what was i thinking?! boys can be cocky as frick, but if a girl is confident? woah. dream big.]
anywho. then we talked about the way society constructs thoughts. the way we decide what is "okay" and what is just not normal. he gave the example of his piercings... that twenty years ago, he had to be careful of which ear he pierced [because one means you're straight and one means you're homosexual].
he cracked me up with this quote:
"back then, if you were a guy and you have piercings, you were either gay, a pirate, or a biker... or maybe a gay pirate biker. now people are like, 'dude, noone gives a rats[butt] about your stupid piercings.'"
hahahahahahahahaha. i about died laughing. gay pirate biker. hahaha. anyway...
in some ways it's funny to see how much our society has changed. i love seeing women running for office. i love seeing a black president. i love diversity. i love people just being themselves. i really do.
in other ways, though, seeing how much our society has changed is scary. morals have gone out the window. i really think that's undeniable. find a decent tv show, a decent movie, a decent song. look at the statistics of children born outside of marriage. the amount of young girls raising babies on their own. the amount of young people winding up in jail and prison. and i'm not saying that piercings=prison at all. i'm just saying it's odd that twenty or thirty years ago, a piercing was the end of the world, and now we're all sitting around watching "sixteen and pregnant," without a second thought as to how much those girls' lives just changed.
and i don't mean this to sound judgemental. i have friends of all walks of life, and i don't judge a single one. i think we each have to choose what we want most and go after that. but it's just odd to realize how much morals have changed even just since my momma was my age.
somewhere along the way, in trying to be more open-minded and politically correct, we gave up a lot of our morals. and i think that's sad.
that being said... i'd like to raise my children in a little bubble, please. :)
rambling over.
xo.
al
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